People Between the Ages 70 and 100 Reveal Their Biggest Regrets
We all have regrets. Missed opportunities, wrong turns, that slice of cheesecake you shouldn’t have finished (although debatable). But what about regrets simmered over decades, lessons learned through a lifetime of experiences? A recent survey by researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, 2023, surveyed people between the ages of 70 and 100, asking them to share their biggest regrets. Here’s a glimpse into the wisdom (and maybe a few warnings) gleaned from those who’ve indeed seen it all:
Not Prioritizing Health
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A staggering 82% of respondents revealed regretting not taking better care of their health when they were younger. This echoes a national trend – a 2023 CDC report highlights the increasing prevalence of preventable chronic diseases in older adults.
Working Too Hard
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While a strong work ethic is admirable, it can come at a cost. Over two-thirds (65%) of those surveyed wished they hadn’t sacrificed so much personal time for their careers. They emphasized the importance of finding a healthy work-life balance.
Not Expressing Emotions Freely
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Many (73%, to be precise) regretted holding back their emotions, allowing fear or social pressure to dictate their actions. They encouraged younger generations to be open and honest about their feelings.
Neglecting Relationships
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Building and nurturing relationships is crucial at every stage of life. Nearly six in ten (58%) of respondents wished they’d invested more time and effort in maintaining strong bonds with friends and family.
Not Taking Enough Risks
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Life is full of possibilities, and sometimes, the most incredible rewards lie beyond our comfort zones. A significant majority (71%) of those surveyed expressed regret over playing it too safe and not taking more chances when they had the opportunity.
Staying in Unhappy Relationships
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The weight of time spent in an unfulfilling relationship can be a heavy burden. 52% of respondents regretted staying in relationships that no longer brought them joy, urging others to prioritize their own happiness.
Not Traveling Enough
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The world is a vast and wondrous place, and many (68%) of those surveyed wished they had explored more in their younger years. Travel broadens horizons and creates lasting memories.
Not Learning New Skills
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Our brains crave stimulation, and lifelong learning keeps us sharp. 63% of respondents expressed regret over not challenging themselves by acquiring new skills or hobbies throughout their lives.
Not Saying “I Love You” Enough
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Love is a precious gift, and freely expressing ourselves is essential. A heartfelt “I love you” can make all the difference. Nearly all (92%) of those surveyed wished they had said these three little words more often to their loved ones.
Not Living in the Moment
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Life is a journey, not a destination. 79% of respondents regretted dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, missing out on the beauty of the present moment. They encouraged embracing the here and now.
Not Following Their Passions
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Chasing dreams fuels our sense of purpose. 59% of those surveyed wished they had pursued their true passions with more fervor, regardless of societal expectations.
Holding Grudges
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Letting go of negativity is essential for inner peace. 75% of respondents regretted holding onto grudges, emphasizing the importance of forgiveness for both themselves and others.
Not Standing Up for Themselves
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Having a voice and advocating for yourself is empowering. 61% of those surveyed wished they had spoken up more for themselves and their beliefs throughout their lives.
Not Appreciating What They Had
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Gratitude is crucial to happiness. A remarkable 95% of respondents expressed regret over taking the good things in life for granted, urging others to cherish what they have each and every day.